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9.10.13

Susu Anak: Ada Apa dengan Status?

Assalammualaikum dan hai peeps!

It's undeniable, breastmilk is the best for babies. It's custom-made and specially designed for human child. Tapi, kita kena ingat, baik susu ibu (SI) atau susu formula (SF), dua-dua adalah REZEKI DARI ALLAH, cuma bentuk berlainan je. Walaupun setakat ni Zain masih dapat SI sepenuhnya, Rilla tak pernah judge ibu-ibu yang lain yang bagi anak mereka SF. Rilla rasa kalau Rilla judge, atau Rilla kutuk, samalah macam Rilla judge dan kutuk rezeki yang Allah bagi kepada ibu dan anak tu.

Sesungguhnya, kita tak akan pernah tahu keadaan seseorang. Mungkinlah kita boleh menuduh itu ini, tak cukup effort lah, tak jaga pemakanan lah, but we won't ever understand unless we're in their shoes. I know some of us believe the saying "takde istilah takde susu". Well, to me, kita boleh pegang ayat tu untuk menaikkan semangat kita, tapi janganlah kita gunakan ayat itu untuk menuduh orang lain macam "Kau tak cukup usaha lah tu. Ko tahu tak takde istilah takde susu?". Astargfirullah. Kalau tidak diizin Allah, usahalah selautan pun, memang takkan ada susu. Ya, ada cara-cara untuk menambah susu yang kalau kita buat, by right, akan menjadi. Tapi ingat, lain orang, lain badannya. Bukan semuanya sama, buat itu ini, nah...automatik susu keluar.

Remember, be humble about our efforts, because in the end it's Allah's doings and gift that we're able to produce milk. Eh tapi jangan tak usaha pulak. Maksud Rilla, usaha sungguh-sungguh dan tawakkal. Jangan taksub usahaka kita tu yang akan menentukan segalanya. Yang kita nak usaha tu pun, daya tenaga datang dari siapa? Allah bukan? Kalau si ibu tak ada kesedaran tentang kebaikan SI, kita doakan sahaja mereka dikurniakan kesedaran. Bantu mereka menambah ilmu tentang penyusuan SI.

I always remind myself that it's Allah's willing that Zain is still fully on breastmilk, thus far. THUS FAR. I always remind myself that I can also be deprived from it, if it's Allah's willing, at any point of time. I always remind myself to not be too proud of my milk production or Zain's rezeki that he's still fully on breastmilk. Jadi, kita kena sentiasa bersyukur, walaupun hasil pam tak banyak ke, at least ada. Walaupun sikit, ia masih rezeki. Ada apa dengan status? Hati-hati bila bercakap "My baby fully on breastmilk tau, setitik FM pun tak pernah masuk". Hati-hati, jangan sampai riak. Bukan tak boleh cakap, just be humble about it: "Alhamdulillah, Allah masih izikan aku susukan anakku". Segala pujian adalah untuk Allah.

I've never taken statuses seriously. Exclusive BF ke, Fully BF ke, Mix ke, fully FM ke, in the end, all that's important is that we're providing the best that we can for our babies. To FM/SF mommies, don't feel so bad. It's not like you're starving your baby. You're still providing them the next best thing. Untuk SF mommies juga, elakkan dari kita membanding-bandingkan susu apa yang kita belikan untuk anak. Susu mahal ke, susu murah ke, again, both are REZEKI. Kita tak tahu mungkin ada ibu bapa tak mampu beli susu mahal, atau mungkin anak dia tak serasi dengan susu mahal. Atau mungkin jugak anak reject FM terus, nak direct feed je, itu pun ada juga. Please don't judge.

Yes, you are entitled to your own opinion which may differ from mine. You may voice it up, but do it in a nice manner. Act classy. Bak kata pakcik Rilla, only dogs bark. Walau niat nak kongsi ilmu, do it in a nice way. Contohnya, instead of saying "Buat apalah ko sumbat anak tu dengan susu lembu? Adoilaaaa", say "Susu iu banyak khasiat tau. Khasiatnya adalah etc..etc..etc..". kadang-kadang kita ada isi yang bagus, tapi kalau cara penyampaian tak sedap, beremosi negatif, orang takkan pandang isi tu.

We are all mothers. Why are we too harsh on each other?
We are all mothers. Let's be nice to each other, okay?

21 comments:

  1. i hope sapa yang obses exclusive bf baca entry u ni. Thank u rilla :)

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  2. agreee!!! well said rilla well said! :D berlambak i tgk status kt FB/twitter/instagram psl hal ni. i just shrug and walk away. mls nk komen hahaha

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  3. akk suka entry ni...tq for sharing sis

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  4. tq rilla sbb prihatin dengan masalah ibu2 yg kurang bernasib baik dlm susu ibu.. jijah salah sorg yg kurang bernasib baik..huu :(

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  5. couldn't agree more rilla. post yang membuka mata-mata yang lain. skrg ni zimie masih fully bf husna tapi tak patut tau kalau ada sesetengah pihak yg suka judge org tanpa usul periksa. kesian mak2 yang dah buat terbaik untuk anak diorang. yang penting anak tak kelaparan, tak kisah la bagi susu apa sekalipun. peace.

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  6. totally agreed with u! janganla hentam or cakap sampai sentuh sensitivity org yg terpaksa bg FM pada anak mereka. we not on their shoe. apa2 pun dengan IzinNya.

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  7. Brilliant.tu je nk ckap.goodluck babe utk bf journey u :)

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  8. Always positive........will get positive mind and also good advised...

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  9. kayrul nie kategori ibu yg kurang sangat2 susu ibu...dah macam2 cara cuba dan makan tetap la sama....tapi sikit2 pun masih ada rezeki untuk anak2 minum lagi

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  10. Pengalaman kat hospital selayang (yes, govt hospitals kan hospital rakan bayi) masa kat NICU nurse tanya feed anak guna BF/BM ke or FM. They won't judge. In fact nurse hospital la yg hari2 sediakan FM in bottles (jenama NAN yg memang in liquid form) in case mak xde susu or x cukup susu utk susukan anak. FM pun ada for full term babies n preemie babies (botol sama label lain2). Kebanyakan yg duduk kat NICU tu sbb baby jaundice n ibu2 kena monitor anak pee n poop brp banyak dlm sehari.

    One night nurse dtg jenguk sambil pegang2 baby, nurse tanya 'Susu cukup x? Kalo x cukup kena topup dgn FM' and I was puzzled, I thought klinik rakan bayi kata exclusive BM for 6 whole months? Nurse cakap 'Kalo baby tu lapar lg kena la feed jugak dgn FM, kesian dia kalo x cukup minum lambat berak kencing, lg lambat kuning nak hilang.'

    So there you go. That's the difference between KKIA nurses n NICU nurses. KKIA kata jangan bagi FM, n if anyone ever start with 'Kalo x cukup susu...?' they will start their ceramah 'No such thing as takde susu, it's all in ur mind'. NICU nurses pulak cakap jgn biarkan lapar. They deal with sick babies on daily basis, they know if the baby is in pain sebab lapar. But most mommies yg nak exclusively BF anak ni dah dibasuh dgn idea 'FM is a total no' n sometimes sanggup biarkan anak lapar asalkan xde susu lembu masuk dlm perut. -_-

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  11. Total agree (^^) rezeki masing lain-lain. Jangan sampai riak menunjuk-nunjuk

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  12. I just read your entry here (forgive me as I am a newbie).and thank you so much for bringing this thing up. I'm a mommy n I only got to bf my baby for only 2 months. Due to some circumstances my milk production was getting low and my baby didn't want it anymore. I did join this one page of BF mommies on FB because I wanted to know more infos but I left the group since everybody was bragging about their milk n that made me felt so bad since I'm not bf my baby. I feel so sad but people around me don't understand. I wished that I could turn back the time n started to bf my baby.but alhamdulillah, my baby is already 1 1/2 yo now. he is so healthy,active.cheeky n smart. he is the best thing that has ever happened in my life. may our babies be protected by Allah. Salam dear sister. =)

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  13. I kurg bnasib baik utk bg bby SI..tp alhamdulillah rezeki x putus utk beli kn SF yg terbaik..sgt suka n agree baca entry u..tqvm..I dpt semangat balik

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  14. I kurg bnasib baik utk bg bby SI..tp alhamdulillah rezeki x putus utk beli kn SF yg terbaik..sgt suka n agree baca entry u..tqvm..I dpt semangat balik

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  15. Thanks for this entry.. Sy adalah salah seorang ibu yg kurang brjaya dlm provide SI pd ke 3-3 baby sy.. Masa 1st baby, sy masih bole terima bila org ckp kita kurang berusaha atau sbgainya.. Tp bila 2nd & 3rd baby masih brlaku benda yg sama walaupun kita tlh tingkatkn usaha.. Sy redha akan rezeki anak2 sy yg Allah dh tentukan.. Mmg kekadang kecik ati dgn ckp2 org.. Anyway, thanks coz entry ni makes me.. "Bertabah".. Mohon utk share.. Tq

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  16. agreed with u. tapi alhamdulillah sy x pernah bertemu dgn org yang sedemikian rupa lagi.. syukur sy dikelilingi org yg positif..

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  17. Stuju ng post ni..saya dpt bf 1month je..dh usaha mcm2 tp rezeki allah tu tkda utk bby.tpksa sumbat fm tp mmg allah dh tetapkan bhgn masing2 wlaupun ramai org kata fm bby tak kuat cpt sakit tp ank saya alhamdulillah jrg sakit bnding ng ank kwn yg full bf..tu la riak tu bhaya..allah bg susu bdn byk tp sb riak allah tarik nikmat sihat ank..waallahualam. .

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  18. Totally agree.. sy pon xde rezki nk bg SI.. dis entry sgt sesuai for my fren yg ske sgt riak cz she can produce SI.. xpk perasaan pde yg xde rezki ni.. hmpir setiap status die akn ckp psl bf n bla bla bla. she's so annoying.. hbs lau xde susu bdn xpaya bg ke kn.. SF pon the best choice we had after BF..my son mbesa dgn sihat jugak evn mnm SF je..btw well said rilla.. trimas cz menaikn semangat pd kami yg xde rezki ni..

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