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23.9.14

Menambah Bilangan Ummah

Assalammualaikum dan hai~

Ha..kelas tak tajuk? Hahaha.

So, most of my peers are already or on their way to have their second child. Sedang elok lah masanya, anak dah 1 tahun lebih.

As for us, no, not yet. Although, we have started to tease Zain with the "Zain nak adik tak?" question in which most of the times he answered with shaking his head or give no response at all. But we like to ask him anyway, just to annoy him.

He's such a clingy baby tua, especially towards me. Like yesterday, he was playing with Kanda, all giggles and laughters, and I went down to my car to get some stuff. And the moment he realized I'm not anywhere to be found, he started crying. He went all over the house trying to find me, the poor baby. Kanda managed to calm him down. But as soon as he heard the front grille banging (signalling I'm at the front door) he started wailing. WAILING I tell you! Drama much Zain?

We've been getting hints about trying for the second one from family and friends, all we replied with "Aamiin". We actually have been discussing about this, but it was never a deep conversation. Usually lasted less than 5 minutes, lol.

I'm actually torn to try as soon as possible due to my age and I'm planning to stop getting pregnant by 35. But at the same time I'm also worried about the responsibility of having another child. Not only the financial responsibility, but my ability to cope as well. Will I be able to manage both of them? Will I be able to give him (berangan nak dapat lagi sorang baby boy, lol) the same attention like I gave to Zain? Yelah, siapa tak suka dapat baby kan? But it's not just a baby, it's a whole load of responsiblity there, amanah, sebuah nyawa yang dalam hidupnya bebinkan Kanda, matinya berbinkan Rilla.

Tunggulah tahun depan, baru bukak kertas cadangan balik, boleh?

How did you guys decide?

10 comments:

  1. kalau akk just go with the flow..at least kalau sis ada anak lain zain ada la kawan..hehehehe..macam akk decided nak 5 ornag anak..tp tula..rasa dah tak mampu dah nak beranak lagi..so jst concentrate yang 4 ni je la..

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    1. Go with the flow camne kak kalau ada kaedah kawalan?

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  2. takde planning bagai masa anak no 1 dan 2..
    mmg tup2 eh alamak, abg sayang pregnant lagi ni..

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  3. Firstly I set target min (4) n max (6) children I want to have. Then, I have planned at what age I must get a baby and at what age must stop expecting (34 years old). haha. I just planned. The best planner is surely ALLAH.

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    1. Bagus u ada firm plan. I pun macam tu lah lebih kurang, tapi takut-takut

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  4. haha nk jwb camanaa. xdecide pn. case i unplanned. lol. but i admit i was not ready masa last year. but this year maybe god knows it's d right time so terima dgn redha haha. but betulla, based on my experience if u r not ready yet plan btul2. nt emosi tunggang langgang if xbrapa ready wpn mulut kata ready hehe

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    1. I pulak masa 1st pregnancy dulu..tak ready sebenarnya, tapi I muhasabah diri, Allah dah tentukan, maknanya I dah ready, cuma I je yang tak sedar.

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  5. sometimes we are not ready until we face it.hoho...Allah always the best planner, Allah know when we ready...anak baru 5bulan, hati rindu nk mengandung lagi, same time pk tkot x mampu nk manage anak2 sendiri sebab pjj dgn husband.

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  6. For husband n I , kitorang taknak anak jauh sgt ie 3 taun sbb nanti mcm tak berapa rapat.2 years is just nice.And when a few false alarms got me disappointed,i knew i was ready for another one.Hal lain mcm penat,duit etc tuhan akan mudahkan insyaAllah i always believe that.we ttc when kalif hit one, and terus lekat haha. Alhamdulillah. Kekadang risau juga tp boleh punya insyaAllah

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